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Truly Madly Deeply

Truly Madly Deeply

313834_1988220076323_1567958031_31512884_860394615_nThere’s been increase in interest in happiness over the years.  Is it related to demographics, to having more money rather than less?  Is our  happiness related to a sense  of meaning and purpose? Is happiness a transient emotion? Is it a matter of perception? Alain de Botton writes in The Architecture of Happiness “(that) which we anoint with the word beautiful, alludes to a state that, on a psychological level, we can describe as mental health or happiness.

Some research hypothesizes that happiness is linked to the content of our moment to moment experiences. For centuries, spiritual traditions and hermetic philosophy have affirmed that human happiness rests in the present moment. We really don’t have to go anywhere to find the truth of our happiness because it is contained within the core of our whole being. At this very moment.  Our happiness is inherent within us all. Vanity Fair Managing editor, successful playwright, Congresswoman Clare Boothe Luce gave her her 18 year old daughter Ann this advice: “for the moment the main thing is to get what little happiness there is out of life in this war-torn world because these are the good old days, now.” A year later Ann, her only child, died in a car accident.

So “These are the good old days now.” Forget the “bucket lists” (a trite term I have always found leaves a clanging sound on the tongue, especially when most bucket lists appear more like silver platter lists) Live life now. Each moment of each precious day.

On Christmas Eve BBC’s Helen Fawkes discovered she had incurable ovarian cancer. She made a decision to live the life she had always wanted to experience and discovered that “these are the good old days now.”   Helen’s “list for living” included getting a dog, moving to the countryside, exploring the ancient ruins in Rome, taking a speed boat down the Thames, having her book published, learning to play poker and seeing penguins in the South Pole. Externals which for Helen, hopefully  brought  her the happiness and fulfilment she was seeking.Penguin

Like happiness, what we hold dear to our hearts will be different for each one of us. It may take an act of will or the unlimited power of imagination to focus on the essentials and trim away the superfluous details that wallpaper the borders of our days. Turbulent emotions tear across our lives like tornadoes. They shatter our equilibrium and sense of calm. When we disengage from our addiction to melodrama and gossip, and treat ourselves with love and kindness we free ourselves of self-importance and the self-pity that clouds our contentment. When we focus on what is right, rather than on what is wrong, the world will mirror our state of consciousness. When we embrace change and let go, we live in the wonder of the unknown and release a spontaneous flow of Divine Intelligence into the material domain.

Psychologists purport that there are two essential human emotions: pleasure and pain and we respond to these through love or through fear. Love expands our energy field and fear contracts it so what we perceive as pleasure will be interpreted as happiness.

house burningOne way to bring our scattered thoughts to a midpoint of clarity is to imagine that an asteroid is hurtling towards our earth. All life on this planet will be irrevocably obliterated. What would be important then? What would define us? Foster Huntington reflected and defined what he truly loved and valued by  imagining the scenario of a burning house. He collected a few precious things and photographed them. Then asked others to do the same. His beautiful book is titled “The Burning House”. It  is filled with poignant photographs. A haiku that speaks of the uniqueness of our humanness and the vagaries of our selective perception of happiness. burninghouse_kate molins
So today, breathe consciously. Be deeply grateful for what you have right now. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Tell people you love them. And  celebrate the important things in your life.

“These are the good old days now.”

Truly Madly Deeply – Savage Garden

Ingrid Hoffman

  • michel

    October 15, 2013at5:32 pm Reply

    thank you so much for this beautiful and enlightening article today dearest ingrid and what synchronicity..just today i was having lunch with a friend and discussing this exact topic of being happy with each NOW moment and finding the blessing in all the NOW moments instead of waiting and making lists of things that will one day make us happy and then suddenly a crisis arrives and then want to do the things that bring joy and happiness….the time is NOW…to see the blessing and happiness in each moment…even if it is a challenge…there is still something to be happy about…if only our society would remember this ..there would be so many more happy people in the universe…so thank you for confirming my thoughts today…blessings to you for making my day happy:) xxx

  • Sophie

    October 16, 2013at2:16 pm Reply

    This is so beautifully written and this just summs it up: Psychologists purport that there are two essential human emotions: pleasure and pain and we respond to these through love or through fear. Love expands our energy field and fear contracts it so what we perceive as pleasure will be interpreted as happiness.

  • Beverly Anstey

    October 17, 2013at6:43 am Reply

    Thanks for your extraordinary insight and words !
    There are no coincidences …..so for today I will take a deep breath and be grateful .

  • jenny

    October 21, 2013at1:30 pm Reply

    thank you so much Ingrid – this really spoke to me ! Lots of love to you.

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